A family is toxic when most of its members remain in patterns of abuse, discrimination, conflict, emotional distancing, verbal violence, and manipulation. When you’re dealing with a toxic family member, it can seem as if you don’t have many options.

You therefore need to be extra careful. You don’t want to end up becoming a toxic person yourself, just to deal with a toxic family member. Imitating this person’s actions will only make matters worse and hurt those around you. In order to prevent this from happening, I have come up with five healthy ways you can deal with a toxic family member.

1.  Be clear about your boundaries.
2. You don’t have to help them through every crisis.
3. You don’t need to explain.
4. Don’t judge.
5. Own your strengths and your weaknesses.
6. Don’t expect change.
7. Choose your battles wisely.

8. Don’t be the victim.
9. Be empowered by your motives.
10. Focus on the solution rather than the problem.
11. Surround yourself with people who will give as much as you do.
12. Forgive – but don’t forget.
13. Know that you don’t need their approval. You really don’t.